What is your techniques for Building self confidence?

Increase Your Self-Awareness

Whether you know it or not, there is a constant internal dialogue going on in the back of your mind. There’s a voice in your head, and it might be saying things like, “You can’t do it”, or “You’re not good enough,” or “You don’t deserve it.” As my life coaches remind me, most of us are unaware of what our “monkey mind” is saying to us and about us.To get a better grasp on what that little voice is saying, you’ll need to start listening to it. The two best ways to do this are:

- meditate and listen to what your inner critic is telling you
- write those thoughts down in your journal

As you gain more awareness of what your inner critic is saying, you’ll notice that the voice may quiet down and go away, or it may even intensify (because now you’re hearing it more). Either way, you’re now more aware of it. From here, you (or the life coach you’re working with) can question whether these thoughts are true, challenge them, and work with them to let them go.

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The fact is that most excessively dominant people are usually bullies. Bullies are deep-down very insecure people. They dominate because they are too insecure to allow other people to have responsibility and influence, and this behaviour is generally conditioned from childhood for one reason or another. The dominant bullying behaviour is effectively reinforced by the response given by 'secure' and 'non-assertive' people to bullying. The bully gets his or her own way. The bullying dominant behaviour is rewarded, and so it persists.

Dominant, bullying people, usually from a very young age, become positively conditioned to bullying behaviour, because in their own terms it works. Their own terms are generally concerned with satisfying their ego and selfish drives to get their own way, to control, to achieve status (often implanted by insecure ambitious parents), to manipulate, make decisions, build empires, to collect material signs of achievement, monetary wealth, and particularly to establish protective mechanisms, such as 'yes-men' followers ('body-guards'), immunity from challenge and interference, scrutiny, judgement, etc. Early childhood experiences play an important part in creating bullies. Bullies are victims as well as aggressors. And although it's a tough challenge for anyone on the receiving end of their behaviour they actually deserve sympathy.

For me, I love to talk with my self in front of the mirror.
I like to tell myself I can do it.
Whenever I say that it makes me more confidence.


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